Danish theologian Søren Kierkegaard once stated, “The most common form of despair is not being who you are.” Kierkegaard spoke of the inner struggle many of us face when we don’t embrace our true selves. We often wear masks, pretending to be someone we’re not, whether trying to fit in with classmates in college or putting on an act at work to gain approval. Although this may earn us acceptance for some time, it can be exhausting in the long run and hamper our mental health.
A study in the Journal of Counseling Psychology found that authenticity is linked to higher self-esteem, better mental health and overall happiness. The study showed that living authentically is essential for our health and happiness. We can lead happier, healthier lives by prioritising authenticity and being kind to ourselves.
World Kindness Day, a part of the Global Kindness Movement, is celebrated on November 13th. This day encourages people to practise kindness and reminds us that it can positively impact our communities. Celebrating kindness goes hand in hand with being true to ourselves, as genuine acts of kindness often come from authentic connections with others and ourselves. So, join us as we explore the importance of honesty and how being true to oneself is important for our wellbeing.
Have you noticed how, when you pretend a certain way at your workplace or home, you get exhausted after a point? Or how you experience stress and anxiety from behaving a certain way for too long?
For instance, your new friends in college invite you to a party and even though you don’t like parties, you feel pressured to go. In situations like this, you might find yourself uncomfortable, out of place and anxious.
When we try to be someone we’re not, it creates a lot of stress and anxiety. Pretending to fit in or meet others’ expectations requires effort, which can be draining. Being authentic allows us to relax. When we embrace who we truly are, we are less anxious and stressed.
When we don’t live authentically, we tend to damage our self-esteem. It almost feels like we don’t like who we are and wish we could be someone else. This constant feeling of inadequacy can weigh heavily on us.
In contrast, living authentically can boost our self-esteem. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, we start to appreciate our own qualities. This self-acceptance leads to a positive self-image and enhances our overall happiness. It also makes us more confident in our abilities.
Being authentic means being true to yourself and expressing who you are, rather than pretending to be someone else.
Authenticity helps reduce stress, anxiety. It boosts self-esteem and all of this contributes to better mental health.
You can start by reflecting on your values and interests and making choices that align with what you truly want.
It’s normal to feel afraid of being vulnerable. Start small by expressing your true feelings in safe spaces. And remember, that being authentic definitely leads to happiness and fulfilment.
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